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Understanding My Multiple Selves

Have you ever felt like there are many versions of yourself, each one emerging in different situations? Recently, I was in therapy discussing how at times I feel like so many different people or versions of Grace that it’s hard to realize which part of me I’m needing vs. what part is actually showing up. I remember always feeling like this growing up. After seeing certain shows and hearing about multiple personalities disorder, or Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), I started thinking I might have it. After I told my therapist this, she explained more about it and then confirmed I don’t have it. My therapist explained that what I’m feeling is completely normal and multiple personality disorder is so much more intense.

I did some research on it as well after that session and everything I read confirmed what my therapist had said during our session. I realized that I never knew, or realized, that everyone has different personalities, and they all come out at different times depending on the situation at hand. A few days after this talk with my therapist, I thought maybe the best way to truly understand these different parts of myself was to get to know all the different versions. In order to do that, I needed a list. After I created this list, I looked at it and it all made so much more sense. I encourage you all to do the same. Maybe you’ll learn something about yourself or a part of yourself you didn’t realize was there. I wanted to share my life as a point of reference. I hope that this helps you with your list and your journey to self-awareness.

Exploring My Identities

Grace Baquera Berry

• Mental health advocate and all about promoting well-being

• Model / Creative Artist / Influencer

• Single mom

• Co parent

• Living a life that wasn’t wanted but making the best out of it

  Grace Berry

• Legally Berry but will always be a Baquera

• Aley’s mom

• Divorced

• Co-parent

• Living a life that wasn’t wanted but making the best out of it

Grace Baquera

• Model / Creative Artist / Influencer

• Networking

• Collaborative work

• Brand work

• Runway model

• BTS / Production Assistant

  Grace – Aley’s mom

• One parent household

• Priority is spending time with Aley

• Attempts to be consistent, keep a rhythm, while also keeping the house picked up

• Gives self-grace when unable to keep with executive tasks

  Girl Bossed Too Hard Grace

• Med Spec specialty scheduler

• Respectful to colleagues

• Helpful

• Team player

• Not afraid to reach out for help

• Confident in ideas

The Importance of Self-Awareness

I added things to a list that I either felt I embodied or traits I aspire to embody. Creating this list has significantly impacted my mental well-being. I can now recognize which part of myself is present in any given moment and which part I want to bring forward. This is still a work in progress, and I’m okay with that. I believe we will never fully know ourselves and all our versions completely. As we grow older, we’ll continue to uncover parts of ourselves that emerge only when needed. It’s in these moments of growth that we begin to understand the different identities we carry within us.

As we explore our identities, I invite you to reflect: what hidden aspects of yourself might you discover?